{"id":14968,"date":"2021-12-27T17:33:48","date_gmt":"2021-12-27T12:03:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.fnp.sg\/blog\/?p=14968"},"modified":"2023-01-09T16:07:05","modified_gmt":"2023-01-09T10:37:05","slug":"how-to-conquer-birthday-blues","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.fnp.sg\/blog\/how-to-conquer-birthday-blues","title":{"rendered":"How to Conquer Birthday Blues?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_81 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-grey ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\" style=\"cursor:inherit\">Table of Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/www.fnp.sg\/blog\/how-to-conquer-birthday-blues\/#Dont_have_Big_Expectations\" >Don&#8217;t have Big Expectations\u00a0<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/www.fnp.sg\/blog\/how-to-conquer-birthday-blues\/#Appreciate_Every_Little_Effort\" >Appreciate Every Little Effort\u00a0<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/www.fnp.sg\/blog\/how-to-conquer-birthday-blues\/#Find_Happiness_in_Small_Things\" >Find Happiness in Small Things<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/www.fnp.sg\/blog\/how-to-conquer-birthday-blues\/#Consider_Benefits_of_Getting_Older\" >Consider Benefits of Getting Older\u00a0<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/www.fnp.sg\/blog\/how-to-conquer-birthday-blues\/#Do_What_youve_Always_Wanted\" >Do What you&#8217;ve Always Wanted\u00a0<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-6\" href=\"https:\/\/www.fnp.sg\/blog\/how-to-conquer-birthday-blues\/#Donate_to_Charity_or_Volunteer\" >Donate to Charity or Volunteer\u00a0<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-7\" href=\"https:\/\/www.fnp.sg\/blog\/how-to-conquer-birthday-blues\/#Avoid_Comparisons\" >Avoid Comparisons\u00a0<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-8\" href=\"https:\/\/www.fnp.sg\/blog\/how-to-conquer-birthday-blues\/#Love_Yourself_More\" >Love Yourself More\u00a0<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-9\" href=\"https:\/\/www.fnp.sg\/blog\/how-to-conquer-birthday-blues\/#Set_Realistic_Goals\" >Set Realistic Goals\u00a0<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-10\" href=\"https:\/\/www.fnp.sg\/blog\/how-to-conquer-birthday-blues\/#Identify_Reasons_for_Disliking_your_Day\" >Identify Reasons for Disliking your Day\u00a0<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-11\" href=\"https:\/\/www.fnp.sg\/blog\/how-to-conquer-birthday-blues\/#Spend_Time_with_the_Best_Ones\" >Spend Time with the Best Ones\u00a0<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-12\" href=\"https:\/\/www.fnp.sg\/blog\/how-to-conquer-birthday-blues\/#Accept_Being_Sad\" >Accept Being Sad<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<p>Do you feel or know someone who does not like to make a fuss about their birthday? As you know, a birthday is a special day and it ought to be commemorated with great joy.<\/p>\n<p>However, not everyone shares the same enthusiasm instead engulfed in anxiety, depression, and stress. So, how do we overcome this feeling to make every birthday (irrespective of age) memorable?<\/p>\n<p>Here are 12 answers to the most asked question- how to conquer birthday blues?<\/p>\n<h4><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Dont_have_Big_Expectations\"><\/span><strong>Don&#8217;t have Big Expectations\u00a0<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\" aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/media1.giphy.com\/media\/dJ8LR4t0PAMo5GqhG7\/giphy.gif?cid=790b76114090035ab58508972cba4fdce21d2f89c1c6cb02&amp;rid=giphy.gif&amp;ct=g\" width=\"459\" height=\"258\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Yes, we have all been there when we want a surprise party or a group of friends to drop in unexpectedly. While this happens to people in real life, it is also slightly unrealistic and induced in our heads thanks to movies and soap operas.<\/p>\n<p>So, the best way to keep yourself happy is by not expecting such fantasies and working on your plans yourself.<\/p>\n<h4><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Appreciate_Every_Little_Effort\"><\/span><strong>Appreciate Every Little Effort\u00a0<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\" aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/media4.giphy.com\/media\/kgg2m3kgTLqmohi6H6\/giphy.gif?cid=790b76113e5f59722985e549bf28bc3219e8d7ce36c8fbfb&amp;rid=giphy.gif&amp;ct=g\" width=\"388\" height=\"291\" \/><\/p>\n<p>There was a time when your fussy attitude might have worked on others to get what you wanted, but not anymore. You are now an adult, and you need to stop behaving like a king or queen, instead appreciate even the tiniest effort.<\/p>\n<p>Be it your house help wishing you on your birthday or a relative sending an online card, the small efforts people make for you is what matters.<\/p>\n<h4><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Find_Happiness_in_Small_Things\"><\/span><strong>Find Happiness in Small Things<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\" aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/media4.giphy.com\/media\/LSNqpYqGRqwrS\/giphy.gif?cid=790b761136427ade6eb992e6a4685a69ea972d92ec1014ac&amp;rid=giphy.gif&amp;ct=g\" width=\"403\" height=\"227\" \/><\/p>\n<p>They say, the more materialistic the gesture, the shorter the duration of happiness it brings. However, a small thing can make you happy for a whole year.<\/p>\n<p>While getting a car on your birthday is surely a brilliant gift but getting a happy birthday wish from someone special outweighs it. When the small things in life begin to make you smile, you&#8217;ll automatically be a joyful person. Thus, kicking off your birthday blues faster than you know it!<\/p>\n<h4><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Consider_Benefits_of_Getting_Older\"><\/span><strong>Consider Benefits of Getting Older\u00a0<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\" aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/media4.giphy.com\/media\/Ga8hE7NwZ3sNW\/giphy.gif?cid=790b761173d86f80070eaa1d1416c1c629efd63f394b6c15&amp;rid=giphy.gif&amp;ct=g\" width=\"321\" height=\"321\" \/><\/p>\n<p>When you were a kid, you could not wait to grow old, but now that you are here, you wish you were a kid. This cycle of the other side of the grass is always green and will never end unless you accept your age. Along with it, look at the advantages of becoming a mature adult.<\/p>\n<p>Wondering what those benefits are?<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Financial independence<\/li>\n<li>Living life the way you seem fit<\/li>\n<li>Not needing to show your license to drink alcohol<\/li>\n<li>Finally seeing the world for what it is<\/li>\n<li>Understanding yourself better<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>There are several more advantages to being an adult and to growing old, so let&#8217;s focus only on the good parts from now on.<\/p>\n<h4><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Do_What_youve_Always_Wanted\"><\/span><strong>Do What you&#8217;ve Always Wanted\u00a0<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\" aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/media4.giphy.com\/media\/z4bVNnaFUPtQI\/giphy.gif?cid=790b761157c2859e8a5904ca4a45680eaa6e4536a44dfd38&amp;rid=giphy.gif&amp;ct=g\" width=\"406\" height=\"238\" \/><\/p>\n<p>What have you always wanted to do? Is your bucket list lying in the trash? Now is your chance to go out and finally do what you want.<\/p>\n<p>Whether you want a pool party or a quiet weekend getaway, it is your birthday, and you have to make the decision. Stop thinking about others and the logistics of why you can&#8217;t achieve your dream. Just go for it!!<\/p>\n<h4><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Donate_to_Charity_or_Volunteer\"><\/span><strong>Donate to Charity or Volunteer\u00a0<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\" aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/media0.giphy.com\/media\/0cvMJvDulmuoMF5iIh\/200.webp?cid=ecf05e47rbfg455kq6957isbvu92u9d4d03q6nznvx23nf25&amp;rid=200.webp&amp;ct=g\" width=\"375\" height=\"282\" \/><\/p>\n<p>The purest joys in life come from doing something for someone else. Let this birthday or every from now on be a day when you volunteer to spend time with the differently-abled, children or senior citizens.<\/p>\n<p>You can also choose to make some donations to institutions caring for people, doing research, or curing diseases.\u00a0The gist is to give your time, money, and energy to someone else to make their day brighter. A small effort on your end can go a long way!<\/p>\n<h4><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Avoid_Comparisons\"><\/span><strong>Avoid Comparisons\u00a0<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-medium aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/media4.giphy.com\/media\/dfNYKfFIbI1a0\/giphy.gif?cid=790b7611fd0f88cfe4c73d3d8afdb92b6d63c964c527357c&amp;rid=giphy.gif&amp;ct=g\" width=\"400\" height=\"300\" \/><\/p>\n<p>No matter how young or old you are, you must never compare yourself to someone else. A birthday is your special day, and you have all the right to be happy and feel good. However, drawing comparisons like they threw a big bash or went to Europe while you are in your hometown or at the local pub is what you are doing wrong.<\/p>\n<p>Your day should be about you and what makes you happy from the inside. If going to Universal Studios at the age of 30 makes you happy, so be it.<\/p>\n<h4><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Love_Yourself_More\"><\/span><strong>Love Yourself More\u00a0<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\" aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/media1.giphy.com\/media\/y66znMoN0qEti0UKtB\/giphy.gif?cid=790b76116d02d788ad3a7fff473958e4879f3a02d17287df&amp;rid=giphy.gif&amp;ct=g\" width=\"363\" height=\"329\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Happiness comes from you, and that comes from loving yourself! If you are self-critical, it&#8217;s time to stop and accept your flaws in a good spirit. It is important to work on yourself but also to continue nurturing the good things.<\/p>\n<p>By loving yourself more each day, you learn to accept yourself. Therefore by the time you hit another year, you will have no blues.<\/p>\n<h4><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Set_Realistic_Goals\"><\/span><strong>Set Realistic Goals\u00a0<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\" aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/media1.giphy.com\/media\/3o6wrcrk2oiX5i4fja\/giphy.gif?cid=790b761144d870f4b75018f36adaf7f921450062c3378f36&amp;rid=giphy.gif&amp;ct=g\" width=\"509\" height=\"212\" \/><\/p>\n<p>A vast majority (30 years+) gets birthday blues because they feel they have not yet achieved anything. Once the feeling of being average or below average in life sets in, they begin to compare themselves to others.<\/p>\n<p>It is necessary to tell yourself that your journey, goals, and expectations from life are different from your best friend&#8217;s. Someone who has achieved their goals before you or is far more successful than you does not make them a winner and you a loser.<\/p>\n<p>You are your person, so if you work on yourself by setting realistic goals and working hard to achieve them, you will feel a sense of fulfillment. Make your own success story by not giving up and letting your birthday be the mark for when you turned over a new page.<\/p>\n<h4><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Identify_Reasons_for_Disliking_your_Day\"><\/span><strong>Identify Reasons for Disliking your Day\u00a0<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\" aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/media3.giphy.com\/media\/qOsEfZJweZcWc\/giphy.gif?cid=790b76111adf0574bb17068c55b83723c1c0454a60bef85b&amp;rid=giphy.gif&amp;ct=g\" width=\"445\" height=\"243\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Why do you hate your birthday? Why are you disinterested in celebrating this day? A birthday is supposed to be a day of joy and excitement, so disliking that day is rather odd.<\/p>\n<p>For your mental peace, you need to identify the reason behind being dull for your day. Does it have to do with childhood trauma, a habit of having high expectations, heartbreak, or the blue of growing old?<\/p>\n<p>Whatever your reason\/s may be, you must identify them and work on them. It is never too late to find out why you are not keen on celebrating your birthday.<\/p>\n<h4><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Spend_Time_with_the_Best_Ones\"><\/span><strong>Spend Time with the Best Ones\u00a0<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\" aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/media0.giphy.com\/media\/hr3EudGKkVOtujHM7l\/giphy.gif?cid=790b7611f88f540baaec674775757fd05f7396e02f508eea&amp;rid=giphy.gif&amp;ct=g\" width=\"448\" height=\"252\" \/><\/p>\n<p>We have all had our share of fake friends and snakes. That is why it is essential you spend your birthday surrounded by those you trust and love the most.<\/p>\n<p>No one knows who to bring your mood and sass back better than your dearest ones, be it your friends or family. Also, a day with your loved ones is way better than a day sulking by yourself.<\/p>\n<h4><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Accept_Being_Sad\"><\/span><strong>Accept Being Sad<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\" aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/media4.giphy.com\/media\/K17vgdqhNCTOXq4zsV\/giphy.gif?cid=790b7611d116a8d6fbc20b533e7a0a385dc2bd506d2dd07a&amp;rid=giphy.gif&amp;ct=g\" width=\"328\" height=\"328\" \/><\/p>\n<p>The last thing but the most important thing you need to do is to accept that you are sad. As established above, everything starts with acceptance, and when that comes, half your problem is solved.<\/p>\n<p>Know that; it is perfectly normal to be indifferent or sad about your birthday. With age, other things take precedence, and not being overjoyed like a 16-year-old is perfectly okay.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Do you feel or know someone who does not like to make a fuss about their birthday? As you know, a birthday is a special day and it ought to be commemorated with great joy. However, not everyone shares the same enthusiasm instead engulfed in anxiety, depression, and stress. 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