Do you feel or know someone who does not like to make a fuss about their birthday? As you know, a birthday is a special day and it ought to be commemorated with great joy.
However, not everyone shares the same enthusiasm instead engulfed in anxiety, depression, and stress. So, how do we overcome this feeling to make every birthday (irrespective of age) memorable?
Here are 12 answers to the most asked question- how to conquer birthday blues?
Don't have Big Expectations
Yes, we have all been there when we want a surprise party or a group of friends to drop in unexpectedly. While this happens to people in real life, it is also slightly unrealistic and induced in our heads thanks to movies and soap operas.
So, the best way to keep yourself happy is by not expecting such fantasies and working on your plans yourself.
Appreciate Every Little Effort
There was a time when your fussy attitude might have worked on others to get what you wanted, but not anymore. You are now an adult, and you need to stop behaving like a king or queen, instead appreciate even the tiniest effort.
Be it your house help wishing you on your birthday or a relative sending an online card, the small efforts people make for you is what matters.
Find Happiness in Small Things
They say, the more materialistic the gesture, the shorter the duration of happiness it brings. However, a small thing can make you happy for a whole year.
While getting a car on your birthday is surely a brilliant gift but getting a happy birthday wish from someone special outweighs it. When the small things in life begin to make you smile, you'll automatically be a joyful person. Thus, kicking off your birthday blues faster than you know it!
Consider Benefits of Getting Older
When you were a kid, you could not wait to grow old, but now that you are here, you wish you were a kid. This cycle of the other side of the grass is always green and will never end unless you accept your age. Along with it, look at the advantages of becoming a mature adult.
Wondering what those benefits are?
Financial independence
Living life the way you seem fit
Not needing to show your license to drink alcohol
Finally seeing the world for what it is
Understanding yourself better
There are several more advantages to being an adult and to growing old, so let's focus only on the good parts from now on.
Do What you've Always Wanted
What have you always wanted to do? Is your bucket list lying in the trash? Now is your chance to go out and finally do what you want.
Whether you want a pool party or a quiet weekend getaway, it is your birthday, and you have to make the decision. Stop thinking about others and the logistics of why you can't achieve your dream. Just go for it!!
Donate to Charity or Volunteer
The purest joys in life come from doing something for someone else. Let this birthday or every from now on be a day when you volunteer to spend time with the differently-abled, children or senior citizens.
You can also choose to make some donations to institutions caring for people, doing research, or curing diseases. The gist is to give your time, money, and energy to someone else to make their day brighter. A small effort on your end can go a long way!
Avoid Comparisons
No matter how young or old you are, you must never compare yourself to someone else. A birthday is your special day, and you have all the right to be happy and feel good. However, drawing comparisons like they threw a big bash or went to Europe while you are in your hometown or at the local pub is what you are doing wrong.
Your day should be about you and what makes you happy from the inside. If going to Universal Studios at the age of 30 makes you happy, so be it.
Love Yourself More
Happiness comes from you, and that comes from loving yourself! If you are self-critical, it's time to stop and accept your flaws in a good spirit. It is important to work on yourself but also to continue nurturing the good things.
By loving yourself more each day, you learn to accept yourself. Therefore by the time you hit another year, you will have no blues.
Set Realistic Goals
A vast majority (30 years+) gets birthday blues because they feel they have not yet achieved anything. Once the feeling of being average or below average in life sets in, they begin to compare themselves to others.
It is necessary to tell yourself that your journey, goals, and expectations from life are different from your best friend's. Someone who has achieved their goals before you or is far more successful than you does not make them a winner and you a loser.
You are your person, so if you work on yourself by setting realistic goals and working hard to achieve them, you will feel a sense of fulfillment. Make your own success story by not giving up and letting your birthday be the mark for when you turned over a new page.
Identify Reasons for Disliking your Day
Why do you hate your birthday? Why are you disinterested in celebrating this day? A birthday is supposed to be a day of joy and excitement, so disliking that day is rather odd.
For your mental peace, you need to identify the reason behind being dull for your day. Does it have to do with childhood trauma, a habit of having high expectations, heartbreak, or the blue of growing old?
Whatever your reason/s may be, you must identify them and work on them. It is never too late to find out why you are not keen on celebrating your birthday.
Spend Time with the Best Ones
We have all had our share of fake friends and snakes. That is why it is essential you spend your birthday surrounded by those you trust and love the most.
No one knows who to bring your mood and sass back better than your dearest ones, be it your friends or family. Also, a day with your loved ones is way better than a day sulking by yourself.
Accept Being Sad
The last thing but the most important thing you need to do is to accept that you are sad. As established above, everything starts with acceptance, and when that comes, half your problem is solved.
Know that; it is perfectly normal to be indifferent or sad about your birthday. With age, other things take precedence, and not being overjoyed like a 16-year-old is perfectly okay.
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Yes, we have all been there when we want a surprise party or a group of friends to drop in unexpectedly. While this happens to people in real life, it is also slightly unrealistic and induced in our heads thanks to movies and soap operas.
So, the best way to keep yourself happy is by not expecting such fantasies and working on your plans yourself.
There was a time when your fussy attitude might have worked on others to get what you wanted, but not anymore. You are now an adult, and you need to stop behaving like a king or queen, instead appreciate even the tiniest effort.
Be it your house help wishing you on your birthday or a relative sending an online card, the small efforts people make for you is what matters.
They say, the more materialistic the gesture, the shorter the duration of happiness it brings. However, a small thing can make you happy for a whole year.
While getting a car on your birthday is surely a brilliant gift but getting a happy birthday wish from someone special outweighs it. When the small things in life begin to make you smile, you'll automatically be a joyful person. Thus, kicking off your birthday blues faster than you know it!
When you were a kid, you could not wait to grow old, but now that you are here, you wish you were a kid. This cycle of the other side of the grass is always green and will never end unless you accept your age. Along with it, look at the advantages of becoming a mature adult.
Wondering what those benefits are?
What have you always wanted to do? Is your bucket list lying in the trash? Now is your chance to go out and finally do what you want.
Whether you want a pool party or a quiet weekend getaway, it is your birthday, and you have to make the decision. Stop thinking about others and the logistics of why you can't achieve your dream. Just go for it!!
The purest joys in life come from doing something for someone else. Let this birthday or every from now on be a day when you volunteer to spend time with the differently-abled, children or senior citizens.
You can also choose to make some donations to institutions caring for people, doing research, or curing diseases. The gist is to give your time, money, and energy to someone else to make their day brighter. A small effort on your end can go a long way!
No matter how young or old you are, you must never compare yourself to someone else. A birthday is your special day, and you have all the right to be happy and feel good. However, drawing comparisons like they threw a big bash or went to Europe while you are in your hometown or at the local pub is what you are doing wrong.
Your day should be about you and what makes you happy from the inside. If going to Universal Studios at the age of 30 makes you happy, so be it.
Happiness comes from you, and that comes from loving yourself! If you are self-critical, it's time to stop and accept your flaws in a good spirit. It is important to work on yourself but also to continue nurturing the good things.
By loving yourself more each day, you learn to accept yourself. Therefore by the time you hit another year, you will have no blues.
A vast majority (30 years+) gets birthday blues because they feel they have not yet achieved anything. Once the feeling of being average or below average in life sets in, they begin to compare themselves to others.
It is necessary to tell yourself that your journey, goals, and expectations from life are different from your best friend's. Someone who has achieved their goals before you or is far more successful than you does not make them a winner and you a loser.
You are your person, so if you work on yourself by setting realistic goals and working hard to achieve them, you will feel a sense of fulfillment. Make your own success story by not giving up and letting your birthday be the mark for when you turned over a new page.
Why do you hate your birthday? Why are you disinterested in celebrating this day? A birthday is supposed to be a day of joy and excitement, so disliking that day is rather odd.
For your mental peace, you need to identify the reason behind being dull for your day. Does it have to do with childhood trauma, a habit of having high expectations, heartbreak, or the blue of growing old?
Whatever your reason/s may be, you must identify them and work on them. It is never too late to find out why you are not keen on celebrating your birthday.
We have all had our share of fake friends and snakes. That is why it is essential you spend your birthday surrounded by those you trust and love the most.
No one knows who to bring your mood and sass back better than your dearest ones, be it your friends or family. Also, a day with your loved ones is way better than a day sulking by yourself.
The last thing but the most important thing you need to do is to accept that you are sad. As established above, everything starts with acceptance, and when that comes, half your problem is solved.
Know that; it is perfectly normal to be indifferent or sad about your birthday. With age, other things take precedence, and not being overjoyed like a 16-year-old is perfectly okay. 
